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I worried, as she did, that the word "vegan" could trigger fear in the heart of the average NYC male. I became vegan by "living my truth" (to borrow a phrase from author Colleen Patrick-Goudreau), was I really going to find love by living a lie? I, like so many other women, had been working to twist and contort myself into the perfect mold of the desirable date. I don't know what struck this faith in my heart that being true to myself was the answer, but I realized that I needed to pay attention to my own feelings and comfort levels -- and not try so hard to fit a generic format that was rumored to be the ticket to love (and wasn't working for anyone I knew).I didn't make it a rule to only date vegans, I only promised myself I'd respect my own feelings, beliefs and truths.I was not going to hide my vegan lifestyle, and I was going pay attention to whether or not I was comfortable dating those who consumed animal products. If love is about being true to one's heart, wouldn't that include being true to one's love for animals?

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Not long ago, one of my friends and I sat in a cute, small bar on Manhattan's Lower East Side, exchanging stories and tips about dating in New York City.

It was a true girls' night out, complete with concert tickets to see one of my favorite musicians, Kristin Hersh, performing with the Throwing Muses.

My friend and I huddled in the amber glow of the dimly lit bar, confiding our tales insights with each other. And I told her that not only would I not hide my vegan lifestyle, but that I might only want to date a fellow vegan.

In the midst of the talk she advised, "Don't tell them you're vegan." She was concerned that by revealing my animal-free lifestyle, I might scare prospective suitors off. Veganism is a huge and bright light in my life, and I was not going to sweep it under the carpet for fear of being single.

I'm a big believer in serendipity when it comes to relationships and I'm not sure if that translates to the internet.

I was very clear in my profile that I was vegan, but didn't indicate whether I would only date vegans and vegetarians.

I heard from vegans, vegetarians and omnivores alike. When we made plans again, he cancelled due to a hefty hangover.

The answer was complex, certainly not black and white.

However, what I found was that as soon as I put down my foot about being open, out and unapologetic about my veganism in regards to my dating -- men started to respond in a very positive way.

I didn't make a conscious decision to only date vegans or vegetarians, but I committed to respecting my own feelings when it came to the diet of the person I was with.

I was subscribed to one online dating site, with mixed feelings.

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